A fascinating thread in the SLD forums about unexpected reactions to your weight loss:
As I’ve lost a significant amount of weight and really started looking different, I’ve started noticing more . . . unsupportive behavior. One of them has started offering little biting comments about my size. . . . The other has started getting very upset with me as I approach her weight. . . . When one of their husbands commented on how nice I looked I thought I might be murdered in my sleep.
I had a friend once tell me I was a “traitor” when I lost a lot of weight.
The dragon used to have an issue with my weight, now I’ve lost a lot, she still has an issue.
Addendum. The discussion wandered slightly:
I used to have hair down almost to my bottom & was used to getting lots & lots of attention…..i just thought men liked me…then I cut my hair quite short…whallah….where did all the men go? Very interesting & sobering experience.
In many ways, in many situations, weight contributes to social placing. By merely changing your weight you change your social status and place, with the resulting distortions and push back from those trying to “keep you in your place.”
the idea of “keeping you in your place” is a variation of the social norm, which accounts for fat friends contributing to being fat. it strikes me a being loosely analogous to one’s set point. however it is characterized, it is clear that one’s weight is more complicated than calorie in and calorie out.